Celebrating Our Differences to Enhance Collaboration + Teamwork, Pt. I

Friday, February 15, 2008

CELEBRATING OUR DIFFERENCES

for BETTER COLLBORATION + TEAMWORK, Part I


I have been disheartened and saddened by what has been happening during the last few months in the primary elections campaigns. This is going to be the first in several posts on this issue, and its implications to our capacity, as a nation, to build collaboration and teamwork, or to accomplish our declared goals.

COSTLY ACRIMONIOUS COMPETITION

Negative advertising, libelous attacks on candidates – we have seen them all in previous years (anyone remembers the scurrilous attacks on John Kerry ?).

What is really troubling me this year is the fact that we are viewing a double momentous watershed: the simultaneous candidacy of a white woman and of an Afro American man for the job or President of the United States. A huge Break-Through is happening.

Yet what could be a time of festivity is turning into a blood letting, on both sides. What could be a cause for celebration is turning into a fight that will leave both of these extraordinary candidates diminished, no matter who wins.

It could have been a landmark election, in which two ‘minority’ candidates are running for the presidency. Instead, it is fast becoming the year when the very consolidation of the democratic party seems increasingly less probable – and that at time when it is most needed.

In total disregard for real needs - of the party, of the nation - a dramatic rift is taking place within the democratic party.

This is a year where it looks possible that the Republican Party can lose the presidency. A year when coming together in collaboration and teamwork are more needed than ever among democrats of different hues. But instead, wounds are inflicted by the followers of both of the groundbreaking candidates. In the name of ‘My View are Better than Yours’, the common ground is forgotten. Worse, the prospect for eventual partnership once a candidate is selected is being shredded as we speak.

NO ONE IS FREE OF BLAME HERE

Sadly, the fault – the acrimonious nature of the race – is equally divided among the adversaries. The so-called ‘old’ and ‘new’ guards, the Caucasian women and the Afro Americans, the idealistic and the pragmatists, the younger voters and the middle-aged ones, have all have cast the other side as ‘demonic’ and ‘the enemy of the people.’ They all violated their official principles. No one’s hands are clean.

ACHIEVEMENT of GOALS - How, What's Necessary, What Aides its Completion ?

I will direct my attention away from the spectacle of this blood-thirsty election process, and speak of the practical value of diversity and differences in an arena I am an expert on: accomplishing goals most effectively, and building collaborative alliances and teams.

I have several underlying questions here:

Are we as a nation willing to truly stop casting those different than us – whoever they are - as ‘diabolical’ in order to freely attack and damage them?

Are we as a nation ready to give up the Lone Ranger mythology, and truly appreciate the power and productive effect of building alliances and teams?

Are we as a nation willing to sincerely and fully relinquish prejudices and bias, in order to collaborate and team up with others, across gender, race, ethnic origin, creed, or age?

Are we as a nation willing to access, and benefit from, the immense advantage that comes when we build such teams and partnerships, and include, rather than exclude, members with diverse viewpoints, backgrounds, race, cultures, education levels ?

WHAT WORKS, WHAT DOES NOT WORK ? WHAT CAN BE IMPROVED or INVENTED?

My aim in this series of posts is to bring all of us from the level of abstract ideology and catchy slogans, back to some basic pragmatic questions:

*What is the best way to determine how to act, in pursuing a highly cherished goal ?

*What can we do to discover the most effective means to expedite the Goal Achievement process?

*What role do Collaboration and Teamwork play in such a process?

*How do we weigh the needs of short-term objectives against the requirements of long-term goal(s)?

More specifically, how do we balance the desire to win a battle against the need to be victorious in ending the war?

*What price do we pay when we divorce ‘winning’, or ‘accomplishing our objective,’ from the manner in which we achieve that ‘win’ ?

*Do ethical principles, such as loyalty or trust, have any pragmatic value in accomplishing any goals? Do they play a practical role in the building of alliances and teamwork?

*How do we prioritize our use of assets, strategies and techniques, so that we accomplish our long term objectives as well as stay true to our declared values?


A discussion of these points will follow in the next few post.

May all of us find the way to bridge and heal the growing divide, so that we as a nation may win.

Yours

Dinnah

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Releasing the Old, Attracting + Embracing the New

Monday, December 31, 2007

THE ALPHABET OF ENDING + BEGINNING -
Letting Go of the outdated, Inviting In the untried

Old OUT, New IN

I was doing my New Year version of the Solstice Ritual described by Robert Wilkinson* – letting the Old stuff Out, and inviting, allowing, the New stuff IN.

Then a game began to unfold. Movement, dance, play. I move from Old to New.

From the bitterness of Lemon (old useless stuff I am releasing) to Lemonade (the invigorating New stuff I am attracting and bringing in).

I began to play at formulating a sequence of pairs – A (old) OUT, A’ (new) IN.

I started being fun ! So I decided to systematize - S for Systematic. P for Persistent. P for Playful. Before I knew it, I was going through the whole alphabet.

I tried to be real - to discover the words in each 'letter category' for an actual quality or item I am releasing. The same for concrete elements or traits I am intentionally attracting and nurturing. But the serious search for 'the word that touches' was accompanied by giggles.

More and more giggles. Unexpected giggles in a Serious Ritual of .... You know. E + B.

Here are the results.

On the left, the Old items or qualities I am letting go of.

On the right, the New items or qualities I am bringing In.

OLD Items – I Release /NEW Items I Attract

OUT You Go / Come IN

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Awkward /Attractive

Bitterness /Bliss

Clumsy /Confident

Difficulty /Delight

Exhausted /Ecstatic

Frumpy /Feminine

Grating /Gentle

Hefty / Healthy

Heavy /Humorous

Intemperate / Inspirational

Indecisive / Intentional

Jumpy / Jubilant

Klutzy / Knock-out

Lumpy /Lithe

Mutinous / Merry

Nerdy / Neat

Ogre /Original

Ominous / Open

Pushy / Patient

Quarrelsome / Quick-witted

Rageful / Restful

Self-conscious / Self-expressed

Spiteful / Serene

Sorrowful /Svelte + Sinuous

Troubled /Tolerant

Uptight / Useful

Vain / Valued

Vehement /Vulnerable

Vengeful / Voluptuous

Weak / Warm

Withdrawn / Witty

X -- / X--

Yearning / Yummy

Yo Yo / Yogi

Zonked / Zippy

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Well, my dears, there it is : my List on INs and OUTs.

I apologize for the sinuous right column - make of it what YOU will.

If you want to adopt my New Year game, and have a whole lot of fun yourself with this ritual, be my guest.

I admit, never before had I so much giggling and laughter as I marked and honored the ending of an old year, the beginning of another.

May we all generate much delight and merriment during 2008, attracting and generating Health, Wealth, and lots of Love in all its forms and varieties :-)

Dinnah Pladott


* www.aquariuspapers.com/astrology/2007/12/winter-solstice.htm



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HONORING THE ENDING + BEGINNING TIME

Sunday, December 30, 2007

Greetings, everyone!

We have jingled bells last week, and are now getting our Playtime gear to celebrate New Year's Eve.

It occurred to me that we may return to an older, more ritualistic form of marking the ending of one cycle (the old year) and the beginning of a new one.

I am borrowing here the notes for the Astrological Blog of Robert Wilkinson, www.aquariuspapers.com , "It's the Winter Solstice," 12.21.2006. http://www.aquariuspapers.com/astrology/2006/12/
its_the_winter_.html


Robert, whose writing shine a beam of light as he comments on the upheavals, storms, spirals and twists of the last few years, celebrates that ritual around the Solstice.
I find, however, that such ritual has power whenever we use it - as long as we apply it to mark and honor the ending time, when we have to let old and no longer useful items go; and the beginning time, when we open to allow the new and untried element to enter.

I trust that doing this ritual will facilitate the transition from old to new, from the familiar to the unknown, and from the outdated to the experimental.

Try it, and see what happens.

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Robert Wilkinson's Solstice Ritual

This is not a very elaborate ritual, but it's very powerful in its simplicity.

First, I make a list of everything I want to leave my life in the coming year. Then I either find a disposable object associated with each thing (or person, or personal habit) I want to see leave, or I draw a picture that represents those things, people, or habits. Then I burn each individual picture in a fire, one at a time, while saying goodbye to each of those.

I also make a list of things I want to see come into my life in the coming year. I try to make it realistic, but also allow my imagination to bring forth what might be or could be, even if improbable. After all, it's supposed to be fun! I play with possibilities, and write them down, without getting hung up on specific forms. This is about content more than form. Then I draw pictures symbolizing those things, and burn them, one by one, in a fire, welcoming those things to come.

Over the years I've done this ritual, I find very often that every single thing I want to leave actually does leave. And, I usually see most if not all that I want to appear show up in the following year. Even when one or both lists falls short by a thing or two, overall I've seen great progress year after year. Dec 21 2006

http://www.aquariuspapers.com/astrology/2006/12/
its_the_winter_.html

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May the year 2008 be a year of Bliss and Abundance for us all!

May it also bring Peace and Prosperity to the world !

Dinnah Pladott


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PLAYFULNESS

Sunday, December 23, 2007

DOUBLE YOUR FUN WITH BLOGGING

Reminder: Please forgive our appearance while we go through our
MAKEOVER

HAVE A HAPPY HEALTHY WEALTHY HOLIDAY

And may all your visions and dreams come true this New Year

Dinnah Pladott


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